Are you defining your roles?

Every day we are waking up with some terror news where someone out of bloom found shooting and killing innocent lives. 

Especially Dallas shooting incident in own town have terrified us.  Everyone’s trust is broken when former army person himself used weapon to kill innocents. Since things happened in own town or in front of our own people, we no longer find ourselves to be safe. 

There is no religion, color or any other decimation that can be found guilty to have such episodes repeated but a mindset with which every individual is getting raised or cultured.

For sure, It’s crucial time to raise our child with much more responsibility, more to that it’s time to behave much more sensibly and respect any other human being we come across from within. 

Living in freedom loving country, such brutal incidents not only spread fear but also question - if people are functional enough to understand what freedom really means?

Hillary Clinton says, “It takes a village to raise child”. Let’s try to create such village for our children where they feel comfortable and understand meaning of independence, where there is respect for everyone. 
 As an individual we found to be in different roles all the times. In each role we are in, we must question ourselves to be in right bucket first than pointing fingers or relate to any other theories.  They say, kids pick what they see and with that strong feeling they act as an adult. Before any bad norms become norm of society it’s time to wake up and ask yourself first:

-   - As a parent/ guardian are you really behaving? Is your act in line with what you really expect to have environment for your child’s nourishment? If not, you need to settle down your mind and find out what kind of footprint your kids may likely be followed.

-    - As a teacher/priest are you sharing right messages through your words for people around you in right manner? Whatever you may offer to them, they are likely to give you back. You’ve power to change society in much broader way than what others have to offer.

-     - As media are you portraying right picture and directing people to think in right direction? Or there is popularity - controversy theory mission behind?

-    -  As any layman are you synchronized and ready to raise voice for unnatural acts? Or you’re simply enjoying question gossip and leaving civilian duty?

-     - As individual do you see other humans beyond color, religion or any other discrimination?

-     - As a family do you provide environment, where every individual finds love, respect and acceptance?  Or you’re broke family where you seek consultation somewhere else to pore your hearts?

-  - As friends or coworker you’re just involving in discussion where open gun selling should be banned or you’re really discussing power and its appropriate use for better mankind?

-   -  As any professional, do you really use your knowledge and skills for appropriate improvement than using it for individual gain?

It’s worth asking questions which will find way to make our village, that will raise your child.

Above all, it’s worth investing time in meditating and connecting self to higher being to obtain peaceful mindset, before we suppose anyone else to maintain that peace!

Care for some Exit sir?

special when we eat more special food. Nowadays on click we celebrate and make sure, often we get
tag on to social media and tell the world what’s going in your stomach to put on so much of unfavorable chubby chicks in a month. Hash tag food and formal attires are close equation now more than it was discovered for rare and special occasions which used to gather families together.
Since ages we all connected with equation of food and celebrations. Our happy occasions get more

Like we get tagged with no permission, without any of our body permission we keep eating. For those alarms have not yet raised or have not yet cared for some routine tests, exit entries from food table or from friends means insult. If this is your definition, then it’s actually alarming situation for you.

Have you ever seen, lion killing animals just for the sake of taste? Even animals hunt only when they are hungry. With showing off love for each other it’s common to see people overeating and not sleeping enough, adding more work to own digestive systems.
Have you not seen babies playing well, after they are done with adding cleaning work to adults? Have you ever experience best feeling is when you come out of bathroom rather than overeating or junking and getting up from table?

Appropriate exit matters everywhere. Building architect takes care of trash management first then build houses, software engineer takes care of memory cleansing well to make sure system remains efficient. So does human body need respect and care for efficient trash management system. Routine checkups are done through testing blood samples and waste samples to determine how healthy one is. The moment we stop introspecting what we are eating is what can be processed without any deposits in our body, we will end up with some kind of medicine routine sooner. All of it and various published scientific studies suggest exit from your body matters.

One easy mantra should be recited: “If you ever feel should you eat or no, answer is always NO; but
when you feel should you or not to go to release sort of pressure, answer is always YES ;)”
When to exit quickly?
1. You love to see mouthwatering food but after eating you will be heavy and sleepy. There is no
joy after you get up from that sorts of food table.
2. Food that may cause headache after a while.
3. Silent killer food that you know for sure it is. Most often it’s processed food, hidden sugar and
sodium in it. For example, Soda or frozen instant noodles.
4. Fruits or vegetables that do not go rotten after weeks’ time as per it’s natural cycle known.
5. Super long nights with friends and your threshold is crossed that you don’t know what you’re
doing.
6. Eating in angry mood? Better you don’t.
7. You’re swallowing food since you’ve paid for it. It’s better you choose trash box for that trash
management rather your body.
8. You feel it’s already an hour and you’re sitting at one place. There is no harm exiting for 5 min or
working in standing mode.
9. You are spending time in watching your favorite TV series or what’s app or FB updates but you
have no time for walk. It’s a time to exit for walk for sure.
10. It’s a bedtime for you and there is desert offer awaiting.
“Remember happy body is secret to happy mind and face!”

स्वर सौख्याचे स्वप्न सा-यांचे!

" ज्याला भाषेचा आधार लागत नाही तरीही सर्वव्यापी, अनुभवसन्मुख आणि अक्षय असणार संगीत मात्र  सगळ्यांना भावत. अशा संगीताविषयी अरुणा ढेरे म्हणतात, 
        'ते गाणे कसले? होता नुसताच निळासा रंग
         आयुष्य समजण्याचाही तो निळा निळा प्रारंभ..'
असा काहीसा संगीताचा अर्थ उमगलेली अमेरिकेत जन्माला येउन वाढणारी  केवळ  १८ वर्षीय  युवती जेव्हा शास्त्रीय, उपशास्त्रीय ते bollywood, hollywood अशी एकपात्री  संमिश्र मैफिल  रंगवते. त्याविषयी थोडेसे … "

      अमेरिकेतील मेमोरिअल डे च्या विकांताला कालीफोर्निया बे एरियात एक अनोखा संगीत प्रवास भारतीयांना आणि अमेरिकन रहिवास्यांना अनुभवता आला. शास्त्रीय संगीताने  सुरु झालेल्या  गान प्रवासाची  हॉलिवूड गाण्यांनी सांगता झाली. ह्या प्रवासाची एकपात्री नायिका म्हणजे 'ABCD : अमेरिकन बॉर्न  कल्चर्ड  देसी - सौख्या इनामदार'.
ही एकपात्री संगीत मैफिल केवळ प्रसिद्धी झोतात येण्यासाठी नव्हे तर 'अमेरिकन लंग असोसिएशन' करिता मदतनिधी जमा करण्यासाठी केली गेली ही बातमी आपल्याला  सुखद आच्छर्याचा धक्का देते. ही मैफिल रसिकांसाठी मात्र मोफत होती. 

    ह्या मैफिलीत शुद्ध सारंग राग, मिया मल्हार, मिश्र तिलंग ह्यातील विविध बंदिशी सोबत  एकताल, तीनताल आणि दादरा तालातील विविध बंदिशी आणि तराणे सौख्याने सादर केल्या. ह्याचबरोबर ४० वर्ष जुन, सुप्रसिद्ध अस आशाजींच "युवती मना " हे संगीत मानापमान मधल नाट्यगीत तर "मी राधिका, मी प्रेमिका" आणि "तिन्ही सांजा सखे मिळाल्या" अशी कठीण भावगीतही तीने सादर केली.  "मन मंदिरा  तेजाने" ह्या नुकत्याच प्रदर्शित झालेल्या 'कट्यार काळजात घुसली' ह्या चित्रपटातील 'देस' रागावर आधारित सौख्याच्या गाण्याने, सगळ्या श्रोतृ वर्गाला मंत्र मुग्ध केल. अमेरिकन श्रोताही  तिच्या हिंदुस्थानी संगीतला मनसोक्त दाद देत होता. शास्त्रीय- उपशास्त्रीय आणि भावगीतांनी नटलेली मैफिल मध्यान्तरानंतर अचानक पान खायो संय्या हमार म्हणत समोर आली आणि खुर्चीतले श्रोते डान्स फ्लोअर वर येउन थांबले ते अगदी बॉलीवूड - हॉलीवूड फ्युझन संपेपर्यंत. बलम पिचकारी आणि How Deep is your love ह्या गाण्यांचं फ्युझन  रसिकांना सौख्याच्या पुढल्या यशस्वी  प्रोफेशनल मैफिलीची चाहूल देऊन गेला. तर  Whitney Houston यांच्या जागतिक विक्रम घडवलेल्या  'I will always love you' , ह्या सौख्याच्या ढंगातील गाण्याने  रसिकांच्या मनात कायमस्वरुपी घर वसवलं.   

     जेव्हा २०१३ मध्ये सौख्याच्या  झालेल्या मोठ्या लंग सर्जरी बद्दलची ओळख होते, तेव्हा विविधतेने नटलेली ही एकपात्री दोन- अडीच तासाची गान मैफिल श्रोत्यांना अधिकच भावते. "शास्त्रीय संगीतामुळे  फुफ्फुसाच्या मोठ्या आजारातून लीलया बाहेर आले" असे जेव्हा सौख्या सांगत स्टेज उभी राहते तेव्हा शास्त्रीय संगीताचा तिचा अभ्यास आणि कलेशी असलेल तिचं घट्ट नात आपल्या समोर येत. अतिशय नम्र पणे आपल्या गुरूंचा आणि माता-पित्यांचे आभार मानताना ही संगीत मैफिल ज्या कार्यकर्त्यांमुळे आणि वादकांमुळे  शक्य झाली त्यांचे ऋण ही आपल्यावर कायम राहतील अशी  गोड कबुलीही ती देते. अशी ही सौख्या सगळ्यांना "विद्या विनयेन शोभते।" संदेश पोचवते.
ह्या कार्यक्रमासाठी सौख्याचे जोशी मामा-मामी खास नाशिक हून तर अमेरिकेतल्या विविध शहरांमधून काही मित्र परिवार आवर्जून आला होता. 'सुझान गार्सिया' ह्या अमेरिकन लंग असोसिएशन मधील  सौख्याच्या परिचारिका विशेष करून उपस्थित होत्या.

    ह्या उत्तम मैफिलीला दिग्गज वादक लाभले. शास्त्रीय संगीताच्या मैफिलीत सतीश तारे ह्यांनी तबलावादन केल तर मनोज ताम्हनकर ह्यांनी हर्मोनिअम वर साथ दिली. अवनी आणि प्रियांका ह्या मैत्रिणींची सौख्याला तानपुऱ्यावर साथ मिळाली. उत्तार्धात मेलडी मेकर्स ह्यांनी सौख्याच्या गाण्यांना सिने तारांकित साथ दिली तर ध्वनी संयोजन डीजे डनिअल यांनी सांभाळले. सौरभ इनामदार ह्या सौख्याच्या जुळ्या  बंधूने साक्सोफोन वर कमालीची झुबी डुबी रंगवली तर अमन चोप्रा ह्या सौख्याच्या मित्राने गिटार वर मज्जा आणली. सनी मोझा ह्यांनी इंग्रजीत तर प्रणाली उबाळे-पोतदार ह्यांनी मराठी सूत्रसंचालन उत्तमरीत्या संभाळल. उत्तम स्टेज डेकॉर आणि प्रकाश व्यवस्था अशा सगळ्याच साथींनी ही मैफिल  पंचतारांकित बनली. ह्या सगळ्या व्यवस्थापनेचे श्रेय खरतर इनामदार कुटुंबियांना आणि त्यांच्यासोबत जोडलेल्या अनेक कुटुंबियांना - ज्यांनी ह्या कार्यक्रमासाठी मनापासून काम केल त्यांना जात. 

   

   अमेरिकेत जन्माला येउनही हिंदुस्थानी संगीतात पारंगत होण्याचा ध्यास घेणारी सौख्या म्हणजे एक अजब रासायनच! खरतर सौख्याला वयाच्या अडीच तीन वर्षापासून हिंदुस्थानी संगीतातल  बाळकडू आई - रेणुका ह्यांच्याकडूनच मिळाल. खेळणी सोडून कीबोर्ड वर अलंकार वाजवण्याचा खेळ खेळणाऱ्या सौख्याला कालीफोर्निया बे एरियातील संगीत शिक्षक श्री मनोज आणि अर्चना ताम्हनकर  याचं योग्य ते मार्गदर्शन लाभत आहे.  इंग्रजी आणि हिंदी गाणी मात्र सौख्या ऐकून आत्मसात करते. "आजकाल सौख्याच्या हिंदी गाण्यांच्या उच्चारांवर आणि बारकाव्यांवरती मला जास्त मेहनत मला घ्यावी लागत नाही" असे रेणुका आनंदाने सांगते. सौख्याला "मी राधिका मी प्रेमिका" ह्या गाण्यासाठी संगीतकार श्रीधर फडके ह्यांचे प्रत्यक्ष मार्गदर्शन आणि आशीर्वाद लाभले, हा भाग्ययोगच म्हणावा.योगायोगाची गोष्ट अशी सौख्या आपला  वाढदिवस  श्रेया घोषाल ह्या तिच्या आवडीच्या bollywood गायीकेसोबत साजरा करते.     

      सौख्याला आतापर्यंत  मिळालेल्या  गाण्यातील पारितोषिकांची गणना तिच्या वयाहूनही अधिक आहे. ती बे एरीयातील फ्रीमाउंट शहरातील talent winner आहे,तिला कल्याणजी आनंदजी पैकी आनंदजींनी  best  teen  voice म्हणून गौरविले आहे, तर R. D. बर्मन स्पर्धेची ती विजेती आहे. 'सितारे' आणि 'आशिया TV' वरची ती प्रसिद्ध स्टार performer आहे. बऱ्याचश्या समारंभाची सुरुवात तिच्या गाण्याने होते. अवघ्या तीन दिवसात संस्कृत मध्ये वन्दे मातरम शिकून सादर करणाऱ्या सौख्याला  खूप ठिकाणी भारतीय आणि अमेरिकन राष्ट्रगीत एकाच ठिकाणी गाण्यासाठी खास निमंत्रणही असतं.

  

        अशा गुणी  सौख्याची अनोखी मैफिल व्हावी ह्याच स्वप्न रेणुका माऊलीने बघितलं, अमित ह्यांनी त्याला खतपाणी घातलं. साक्षात सौख्याने ही मैफिल सजवली तिच्या संगीत गुरूंच्या मार्गदर्शनाने आणि पूर्वा - महेश काळे, सुधीर अरविंदन यांच्या मदतीने. संदीप उमराणी आणि सिद्धार्थ राणे ह्यांनी सौख्याच्या मैफिलीसाठीचे खास फोटो शूट केले. हा कार्यक्रम योजनाबद्ध रीतीने व्हावा म्हणून श्री कृष्णन ह्यांचे मार्गदर्शन लाभले.  ह्याचबरोबर बे एरियातील पन्नास कुटुंब एक झाली आणि ही पाचशे रसिकांची मैफिल यशस्वीरित्या फुलली. ह्या मैफिलीच एका वाक्यात श्रेय द्यायचं झाल तर; "एक उत्तम मूल घडवायला एक अख्खा गाव असावा लागतो, तसं अशी आपल्या संस्कृतीशी नाती सांगणारी सुसंस्कृत पिढी परदेशात तयार करण्यासाठी आपल्या संस्कृतीचा वारसा जपणारी, प्रेरणादायी कुटुंब आपल्या जवळ असावी लागतात." असा मित्र परिवार लाभण हा दैवयोग असला तरी आपली मुलं अशा परिवारात वाढवण्याची दृष्टीही असावी लागते. अमित-रेणुका हे एका आदर्श पालकांचे उदाहरण आहे. योग्य तिथे प्रोत्साहन आणि योग्य तिथे आदरयुक्त धाकात ते आपल्या मुलांना घडवण्याचा प्रयत्न करत आहेत.  म्हणूनच  ही  मैफिल म्हणजे फक्त एका इनामदार परिवारापुरती मर्यादित न राहता खर तर साऱ्यांची होऊन जाते. 

       असा हा  "स्वर सौख्याचे, स्वप्न साऱ्यांचे" कार्यक्रम म्हणजे साक्षात पूर्वेकडून पच्छिमेकडला सुसंस्कृत भारतीय पिढीचा प्रवास, सगळ्या परदेशवासी भारतीयांना नक्कीच प्रेरणादायी ठरेल.

Dealing with Stress?

          

                                    Dealing with Stress?

Which phase of life does not bring stress except healthy childhood? All sorts of phases in life come with its own demands. Every individual faces stressed situation and in today’s connected world specially, it brings more and more peer pressure on individuals.

Dealing with all possibilities and opportunities, we tend to learn living with stress. Although this brings more troubles in long run. Now, even science has proved most health problems come to one since individual is not living in happy environments.

Let’s try to see if we can monitor and take off “worry” worry part from our life and then make it a practice to deal with it.

 Numerous techniques advise us to bring our mind and body in synch. As a result, we tend to work on solutions than simply sitting on issues. For some, taking steps towards such techniques is easy way; for others it may not.

Let’s see if we can deal with our stress with some other simple techniques as well to start with.

1.  Put down all your tensions:

Use pen and paper to work on this. Jot down all your tension causing or stressful situations, such that you can go back refer to it. Name that column as “Issues to resolve”. For example, financial stress for affording your kids college fees, finding growth in your career, how to manage time to do your personal priority things etc.

Create another column next to that list to note down “call to action”.     
2.  Analyze your problems:

Let’s go over list of issues to be resolved one by one. Just see if all such situations you alone can resolve it. Whichever you see you can manage well, just put down your name in front of it. For example – manage time for your priority things. No other expert can help you on this unless you take time to do what you really have to do it. Similarly, few things you cannot resolve unless you gain experts opinion. Rather worrying about your kids’ education finances; it’s best to consider all targeted colleges and understanding their curriculum and fee structure to trade off your options. Even further it’s best to find out what kind of funding can be made available for your kid with other channels. For example, does college offer any good scholarship programs? Is there any way, some charity institutes can help on this matter? Are there any options with which either of parents can work some extra hours to add take home money? Are there any other options to create finances or start doing investments at whichever stage of your life to save for your kid’s education? Can you talk to some investment advisors on it?

Remember not all things one can resolve individually and not all can be masters in every field. If needed, we should go ahead and talk to relevant experts as well. Sometimes, talking to experts may even be taxing in terms of money or time.  Put down all possible actions that you have to take on call to action column.

If you do not understand how to resolve particular issue, just leave it and look at it after listening to good music or having coffee or simply doing nothing when you think you’re fresh to re-work on your list.

       3. Create your waste bucket:

After doing some analysis to your issues to be resolved, there are obvious few list items one may observe are futile worries. That you have taken over but in actual are of no use. Just cancel them or write them down and throw it in waste basket. Doing so will definitely help you digest fact better. For example, thinking about some past painful situation is bringing you more tension in present? Just write it down and throw it. In fact, write down list of things that made you more blessed in some other way. Keep rehearsing on things that you have are things that most others struggle to get them in their life. You may be lucky to have good job or good work culture, although you think you’re not at right career path or have achieved right heights in career. After all life is all about improvements. See what can you do to improve your current situation with conscious efforts. List down such options instead of being in past situations.

      4. Dedicate time slot:

After looking at list of issues, if you need more facts to understand bigger picture on resolution, it’s time to dedicate time for such issues and allocate qualitative time. Just write down further your time slot till when you want to resolve this. Break down whole issue into small chunks as in how part by part you can resolve this situation. For example, you want to buy house or nice sports car. It’s time to find out what you can do today to connect your tomorrow.

Devote time to work on it. Some worries are just worries that keep springing throughout a day, cropping your qualitative time. Just dedicate worry hour to just think about it. Let’s not allow repercussions throughout a day by not working on anything 100% causing you more troubles for sure.

5. Consult experts:

Not all problems one can resolve at individual or family levels. For some issues to resolve; you need experts to bring in more vision. It’s worth spending money and time for such things. For example, you have decided to purchase house and you’re now putting down your life long investment for big purchase. If you’re not real estate expert or finance expert, you definitely want to go and consult particular expert to work with you and advice you properly before you make any decision. It’s better to take learned decision than making decision to repent in future.

 While doing such exercise you your self will find out, “worry” can never be a solution to your problems but working on it is!