Which phase of life does not bring stress except healthy
childhood? All sorts of phases in life come with its own demands. Every
individual faces stressed situation and in today’s connected world specially,
it brings more and more peer pressure on individuals.
Dealing with all possibilities and opportunities, we tend to
learn living with stress. Although this brings more troubles in long run. Now, even
science has proved most health problems come to one since individual is not
living in happy environments.
Let’s try to see if we can monitor and take off “worry”
worry part from our life and then make it a practice to deal with it.
Numerous techniques advise us to bring our
mind and body in synch. As a result, we tend to work on solutions than simply
sitting on issues. For some, taking steps towards such techniques is easy way;
for others it may not.
Let’s see if we can deal with our stress with some other
simple techniques as well to start with.
1. Put down all your tensions:
Use pen and paper to work on this. Jot down
all your tension causing or stressful situations, such that you can go back
refer to it. Name that column as “Issues to resolve”. For example, financial
stress for affording your kids college fees, finding growth in your career, how
to manage time to do your personal priority things etc.
Create another column next to that list to
note down “call to action”.
2. Analyze your problems:
2. Analyze your problems:
Let’s go over list of issues to be resolved
one by one. Just see if all such situations you alone can resolve it. Whichever
you see you can manage well, just put down your name in front of it. For
example – manage time for your priority things. No other expert can help you on
this unless you take time to do what you really have to do it. Similarly, few
things you cannot resolve unless you gain experts opinion. Rather worrying
about your kids’ education finances; it’s best to consider all targeted
colleges and understanding their curriculum and fee structure to trade off your
options. Even further it’s best to find out what kind of funding can be made
available for your kid with other channels. For example, does college offer any
good scholarship programs? Is there any way, some charity institutes can help
on this matter? Are there any options with which either of parents can work
some extra hours to add take home money? Are there any other options to create
finances or start doing investments at whichever stage of your life to save for
your kid’s education? Can you talk to some investment advisors on it?
Remember not all things one can resolve
individually and not all can be masters in every field. If needed, we should go
ahead and talk to relevant experts as well. Sometimes, talking to experts may
even be taxing in terms of money or time. Put down all possible actions that you have to
take on call to action column.
If you do not understand how to resolve
particular issue, just leave it and look at it after listening to good music or
having coffee or simply doing nothing when you think you’re fresh to re-work on
your list.
3. Create your waste bucket:
After doing some analysis to your issues to
be resolved, there are obvious few list items one may observe are futile
worries. That you have taken over but in actual are of no use. Just cancel them
or write them down and throw it in waste basket. Doing so will definitely help
you digest fact better. For example, thinking about some past painful situation
is bringing you more tension in present? Just write it down and throw it. In fact,
write down list of things that made you more blessed in some other way. Keep
rehearsing on things that you have are things that most others struggle to get
them in their life. You may be lucky to have good job or good work culture,
although you think you’re not at right career path or have achieved right
heights in career. After all life is all about improvements. See what can you
do to improve your current situation with conscious efforts. List down such
options instead of being in past situations.
4. Dedicate time slot:
After looking at list of issues, if you
need more facts to understand bigger picture on resolution, it’s time to
dedicate time for such issues and allocate qualitative time. Just write down
further your time slot till when you want to resolve this. Break down whole
issue into small chunks as in how part by part you can resolve this situation.
For example, you want to buy house or nice sports car. It’s time to find out
what you can do today to connect your tomorrow.
Devote time to work on it. Some worries are
just worries that keep springing throughout a day, cropping your qualitative
time. Just dedicate worry hour to just think about it. Let’s not allow
repercussions throughout a day by not working on anything 100% causing you more
troubles for sure.
5. Consult experts:
Not all problems one can resolve at
individual or family levels. For some issues to resolve; you need experts to
bring in more vision. It’s worth spending money and time for such things. For
example, you have decided to purchase house and you’re now putting down your
life long investment for big purchase. If you’re not real estate expert or
finance expert, you definitely want to go and consult particular expert to work
with you and advice you properly before you make any decision. It’s better to
take learned decision than making decision to repent in future.
While doing such exercise you your self will
find out, “worry” can never be a
solution to your problems but working on it is!
